Is it okay to say whether or not to date at 42 years old?

–In your essay “Don’t Really Get Angry,” which deals with the terms “herbivore men” and “carnivorous men,” you wrote, “The phrase ‘At that time, he was a carnivorous man’ is already invalid when referring to a certain period of someone’s life,” and “It’s wrong to make someone carry the burden of a temporary state for the rest of their life.”

This is off topic from the main topic of the essay, but I think that people who write or express things tend to find themselves in a situation where they are “carried away by a temporary state for the rest of their lives.” How do you feel when people say to you, “This is what you said at that time,” or “I used to write it like this,”?

I don’t really understand people who say things like that. Doesn’t that ignore the basic premise that humans change over time, that they get better or worse depending on the people around them, or the laws of the world?

I think that people who never really change what they say are quite likely to have decided not to change what they say.

I don’t think I need that. If the underlying skill and talent, like “If I have these ingredients, I can make food of this quality,” remains constant, then I think the things I make will change.

As time goes by, you might be able to create something different from what you couldn’t do in the past.

–I imagine some recipients will feel sad that something they loved is changing.

Of course, I think it’s cool when a rock band continues to play the same musical style for a long time.

But it’s the determination to do something that doesn’t change that’s cool, and changing isn’t uncool at all. Personally, I think it’s cooler to change.

However, things keep changing, and while it’s true that “now” is the most up-to-date version of myself, I don’t know if it’s the best version of myself.

Things might have been more interesting three years ago, and there are bound to be some areas where I’m inferior to my past self.

So even if I think “I want to do this” now, I first respect the way I thought at the time and think, “What would I have thought if I had done this five years ago?” or “What would I have thought if I had done it ten years ago?” or “What would I have thought when I first debuted?”

It’s like we’re all equal in terms of “points.” I often find myself fighting and mixing my way of thinking with my past self, thinking, “I want to do this now, but maybe not like that.”