It’s better to give advice than to give warmth

It’s better to give advice than to give warmth
Giving advice is worse than giving warmth

Text/Omima

In the past few years, my husband and I have been dedicated to taking care of our companions and taking care of the food and daily life of my mother-in-law, who has limited mobility. Unexpectedly, my husband accidentally had a serious car accident on the way home, and then had to face all kinds of problems alone. I was panicked and suddenly felt… Isolated and helpless.

Thinking of my friend who works in the hospital, I thought I could get practical advice based on my work experience. But unexpectedly, the advice she gave me made my choice even more confusing. I couldn’t help but wonder, was this a friend who had helped her in times of need? Why do I feel completely different from before? I have a sense of surprise that I don’t know the person clearly, and I feel that sincerity is replaced by unfeeling.

Then I think of the parents of the students my children teach, who run a nursing center business, and told her the difficulties she was facing. They immediately handled the placement issues without saying a word. They were accommodating and omitted the process. They can take care of their husband without any worries and lend a helping hand to solve the urgent needs in time. I was moved and full of warmth.

My husband was seriously injured in a car accident and was hospitalized. Friends who usually only send messages to greet him learned that they were encountering difficulties. Some people stepped forward without hesitation to help mediate the car accident and actively contacted the claims adjusters so that the matter could be settled successfully; some people sent health food to express warm and silent care; There were people who took it upon themselves to pick me up and drop me off, and there was no need to express the warmth of their eagerness to help others. I felt so full of gratitude that it was hard to express in words.

Haruki Murakami said: “I think most people in the world may need warm words more than practical advice.” Warm-hearted care is more precious. I would like to thank my friends who help me hold an umbrella. “Like water”, I deeply understand the blessing of seeing the true love in times of need. I am lucky to receive it, and I will keep it in my heart!

Source: China